So I really want a Chanel boy bag. A small rose gold one with gold hardware. I obviously don’t need it. There is no urgency for it. I just really want it.
This got me thinking recently. Our entire society, me included, is driven by instant gratification. This is by no means a new finding, but it hit me when I was shopping online and looking at the best way to purchase this bag. And trust me, I am all about #treatyoself, but a 5000 dollar purchase is something to think about (unless your Kim Kardashian).
I had a self-talk and gave myself a few pointers:
- Chanel isn’t going anywhere. If I wait to get the bag next year, Chanel will still be as elite as it is now, I will still love my bag, and it will still look beautiful in my poorly organized closet.
- How do you (I) plan on buying this? 5k could be better spent towards loans, my child’s 529, gifts, etc.
- If I save for it and work for it, the Chanel boy bag will be that much more coveted for me. If I just went and bought it with no plan on financing it, honestly, I’d probably be stressed out and not enjoy it as much. Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder?
After going through these points, I decided that I need to set aside a small funds monthly to get this bag, after putting money into retirement funds!
Patience is a much underrated trait that can be a distinguishing characteristic for those that possess it. Realizing that it takes time to create worthwhile projects, it takes time to get to know people, it takes time to reach your goals, is obvious but in our instant gratification driven society, easily forgotten. A quick swipe to the left and we declined someone based on a few pieces of superficial information.
Here are some tips on how to be more patient:
1. When shopping for non-necessities ask yourself – do you really need this right now? If the answer is no, the move on. If you find that you keep thinking about it or searching for it online, then you know that you do want it. This helps not only your wallet (think of how many things you liked on the rack but forgot about it when you came home?) but also our incessant need for instant gratification. You will feel better purchasing the product because you convinced yourself that you actually want it. A bonus is that if you the item in your online cart for a few days, sometimes the store will give you a discount — they don’t like you being patient!
2. When meeting a new person, its too easy to judge based on their appearance, conversation topics and whatever other features that stand out. But maybe they seemed boring because he/she was exhausted? Or maybe she seemed like she had no style because she left her nice clothes at home? With patience, you can get to know someone that you would have easily dismissed. I have been victim to this and I’m happy I was given more than one occasion to rectify my mistake.
3. Make longterm goals. The small tasks you are doing now won’t seem as frustrating if you can envision it making you a better person/employee/boss later.
4. Be patient with yourself. Did you miss an important deadline? Ate cake for dinner when you are trying to lose weight? We are all human and that means we are all fallible. Being patient with yourself will allow you to forgive and move on towards your goal.
Do you have any tips on not letting instant gratification get the best of you?